It`s Ok to Bitch...tactfully!

Here are some thoughts on the idea of bitching. Yesterday night, a friend of mine came over and we started talking about people (business kind) who have a talent for walking all over other people (non-business). Of course I'm generalizing. I'm really adressing people who are disconnected from their own sense of compassion towards human beings. My friend was bitching about the fact that they tried to manipulate him by making him feel bad about charging 500 dollars for a weeks work on an animation for a video, which is a pretty good deal. (I don`t know how much readers know about the field of animation. But living with two of them for a few years, I've learned that it is an art that requires alot of patience and time. The word tedious probably describes a large part of the process). The result was that he internalized his resentment and kept on feeling bad. He could not communicate his emotions out of fear of blowing up (tactless expression) and hurting or angering the business people.
My friend had all the rights to bitch, artists are always underfunded if not underappreciated! But then we got deeper into the issue of being the types that let ourselves be affected by business people (who seemed to have a great control over emotions, especially compassion--if they still have any left). I concluded that in order to confront these people successfully, one must learn not to get affected so much by other people's words and actions. Otherwise, what will come out of your entire being is an intense expression of anger or sadness or fear and wont do much good in giving you power over your situation, and is unlikely to change anything, if not make things worst. This is probably a skill that is learned in time by being exposed to our own weekness (probably a bit of lack of confidence andor a lack in linguistic skills). So in order to bitch tactfully directly at the person, one needs to develop character and a few social skills which will allow the other person not to interpret your actions as bitching. So in the end the solution is self-awareness. Be aware of your own inner reactions to other people and learn to not judge this reaction as a negative thing. Its ok to communicate this reaction...but choose your expression carefully.